There are so many inspiring teachers who shared their ideas with us in the 20th century. One of my personal favourites is Carl Jung. I was introduced to his work 15 years ago whilst on a counselling course.
Carl left us with much food for thought. ‘What lies behind us is nothing compared to what lies within us.’ Is a wonderful quote.
Jung said something very mind-provoking when he asked ‘Do you want to be good or do you want to be whole?, He then added ‘I want to be whole.’
I’m with you on that Mr Jung. For the first 42 years of my life I decided to be good. Dr John Sarno calls people who choose to be good; goodists. I had a black belt in being a goodist. I felt that if I was always good I wouldn’t wind anyone up, wouldn’t hurt anyones feelings or feel the wrath of their tongue. Boy was I misguided!
I grew up in an enviroment where I was taught that my extended family deserved to be put before me. It didn’t matter what actions they took or how much they irritated me I had to put their needs before my own. I bit my tongue so many times at their bad treatment of me but because I was choosing to be ‘good’ I thought I was doing the right thing. I continued this way of being in all of my realtionships. I became a submissive person. I never got my needs met and didn’t know how to be whole.
I am now 45 years old and I am whole. I am in touch with my true self. I no longer believe that anyone else’s needs are more important than my own. By being whole I am being good. I am being the full expression of who I truly am. I haven’t been put on this earth to be a doormat. We are all children of God and there are no spare parts. We all have personal power and it is a sin to give it away to another.
So Mr Jung; Do I want to be good or do I want to be whole? I want to be whole.
